We do not see things as they are, we see things as we are. Anais Nin
We translate experiences and circumstances with the language of our lives. And the language I speak is a bit different than yours and that can make all the difference when we are looking at the same circumstance. We are going to have two different stories about it. We color our worlds with our personal experiences, baggage, and view points. Where conflict comes in is when we expect everyone else to color their worlds like ours. If we thought about it objectively we wouldn't really want that but we can't see the forest for the trees. We think, in our crazy way, that a world that is all one color - ours of course - would be wonderful and magnificent. But how boring!
Which is better?
Right?
Chances are that whatever we are looking at is multi-colored rather than one color, which is how we tend to view things. How it really is, is blended and mixed and intertwined rather than solid with no variants, etc. Begin to look at things without the color lenses you have chosen and see if you can see people and circumstances for how they really are rather than how we want to make them. You might be surprised! I know I always am when I manage to do it. :)
We translate experiences and circumstances with the language of our lives. And the language I speak is a bit different than yours and that can make all the difference when we are looking at the same circumstance. We are going to have two different stories about it. We color our worlds with our personal experiences, baggage, and view points. Where conflict comes in is when we expect everyone else to color their worlds like ours. If we thought about it objectively we wouldn't really want that but we can't see the forest for the trees. We think, in our crazy way, that a world that is all one color - ours of course - would be wonderful and magnificent. But how boring!
Which is better?
Right?
Chances are that whatever we are looking at is multi-colored rather than one color, which is how we tend to view things. How it really is, is blended and mixed and intertwined rather than solid with no variants, etc. Begin to look at things without the color lenses you have chosen and see if you can see people and circumstances for how they really are rather than how we want to make them. You might be surprised! I know I always am when I manage to do it. :)
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