Imagine all the wondrous things your arms might embrace if they weren't wrapped so tightly around your struggles. Sheila Burke Are you holding on to the wrong things?  The unhealthy things?  The negative things?  The painful things?  By holding on to those you are unable to hold on to the right things, the healthy things, the positive things, the healing. I'm not saying to ignore your struggles but I am saying don't let them be the only thing that fills your arms.  Allow yourself to put them down and embrace life.  To fill your arms to capacity with the struggles is your choice.  Nobody is forcing you to do that.  You always have a choice. What could happen if you embraced life instead?  What would happen if you embraced healthy things instead?  I think part of our unwillingness to let go of the struggles is they have become a comfort for us - as odd as that sounds.  So we are afraid to set down the struggles and pick...