He who forgives ends the quarrel.   African Proverb Forgiveness is tough.  I'm the first one to say it.  It isn't easy and it takes some work.  But when we can actually forgive the other person then suddenly we find all the arguing ceases.  There's no more quarrels with the person, there's no more quarrels within yourself about the situation (am I the only one who has arguments with myself in the shower?  And why the shower?  What is it about the water that draws it out of me?  Cleansing perhaps?  Hmmmm.), and there are no more quarrels with others about the quarrel with the other.  (You followed that right?)  Forgiveness leads to the end of the arguing.  It leads to closure which is what we need most.  It can also lead to healing and reconciliation which we also need the most. A few years ago I was betrayed by several people that I trusted.  It was a painful time and it led me into a season of having to learn how ...