Fair isn't everybody getting the same thing, fair is everybody getting what they need in order to be successful. Unknown Yep. Let me say that again, yep. I'm just like everyone else, I want things to be fair - for me and for others. But that isn't the way things work and truthfully fair in the sense of everyone getting the same thing isn't for the best. It's not the best for people, work places, parenting, pretty much anywhere. For example, in parenting. At first Lanny and I started off doing the same thing for both girls. If the oldest got a privilege then the youngest got the same one. Over time we've seen that perhaps that isn't the best - in fact we have seen it isn't for the best! They are two very different girls with very different personalities, needs, giftings, etc. So what we do for one, to set her up for success, isn't necessarily best for the other, for her success. Right? Put that way you ...