Really? You got *that* out of what I said?

Really? You got that out of what I said?

Some people seem bent on misinterpreting everything everyone else says, ever. Pay them no mind and carry on. Audrey Assad

Right?! Have you ever encountered someone who does this? ('Fess up if you recognize that you are the one who does this...) It's so frustrating and it blocks relationship from happening. If you know that someone you need to converse with has this particular bad habit just take a deep breath, say what you need to, and don't allow their misinterpretation to interfere with what you need to say. Like today's quote says, pay them no mind and move on.
What is at the root of a person who misinterprets everything? It could be several things. It could be insecurity, arrogance, a pessimistic outlook on life, or maybe it has been modeled for them by a parent/grandparent/mentor.
How do you have a relationship with someone who does this? I believe authentic relationship cannot happen. Who wants to spend any amount of time with someone who does this? Also you cannot have genuine and meaningful conversation with someone who is going to twist and misinterpret everything said. So what does relationship with someone like this look like? It looks very shallow, unfortunately. You can try to be the "iron" that sharpens them but you must hold any expectations of changed habits very loosely, in fact have no expectations at all. Don't allow them to get under your skin, don't allow their negativity and twisted interpretations to change your mind or even heart about anything. Relationship can be and will be tricky but if you can take it I say go for it. Be the person in their life that is a voice, literally and figuratively, of positivity and correct perspective.

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April 5, 2015

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