"For whatever it's worth, I'm sorry." Pretty much every human living has said this at least once, on purpose or not
Nope. No can do. And for whatever it's worth, it (the "apology") isn't worth anything. Someone said this to me recently and I got all riled. Why do we say today's quote? I'm wondering why because when I hear that kind of apology I think a couple of things:
1) You are NOT sorry, you are just trying to appease or diffuse a situation. In fact, do you even know what you are sorry for?
2) What do you think your fake "I'm sorry" is worth? Would it be worth something to you if you heard it from me?
The person who said it to me also was assuming I was upset and so they were trying to apologize for something they imagined they had done...or said...but weren't sure. Kind of like covering their bases. That gets me riled also. Don't apologize for imaginary things or to cover your bases. Don't apologize because you are assuming. (Btw, I wasn't upset or mad at all when I heard the explanation/answer to the question I asked but this person went ahead and assumed, talk about getting me upset then!)
Here's the kind of apology that IS worth it:
1) It's specific. You know exactly what went wrong and you are apologizing specifically for it. (i.e. "John, I am sorry that I didn't do the dishes when you had asked me to." See? Specifics tell you and other person that you know what the problem is and you are trying to mend it not just cover your bases.
2) It is sincere and not grumpy. Don't apologize if you got caught but aren't truly sorry. People are pretty smart and they know when an apology is insincere. (i.e. "Sheesh John you're so worked up. So I guess I'm sorry that the dishes didn't get done. Gosh take a chill pill." See? Would you like to hear that kind of "apology"? I didn't think so.
"For whatever it's worth, I'm sorry." Well it's not worth anything in my estimation and I don't accept your apology. So whatcha gonna do with that? :)
Nope. No can do. And for whatever it's worth, it (the "apology") isn't worth anything. Someone said this to me recently and I got all riled. Why do we say today's quote? I'm wondering why because when I hear that kind of apology I think a couple of things:
1) You are NOT sorry, you are just trying to appease or diffuse a situation. In fact, do you even know what you are sorry for?
2) What do you think your fake "I'm sorry" is worth? Would it be worth something to you if you heard it from me?
The person who said it to me also was assuming I was upset and so they were trying to apologize for something they imagined they had done...or said...but weren't sure. Kind of like covering their bases. That gets me riled also. Don't apologize for imaginary things or to cover your bases. Don't apologize because you are assuming. (Btw, I wasn't upset or mad at all when I heard the explanation/answer to the question I asked but this person went ahead and assumed, talk about getting me upset then!)
Here's the kind of apology that IS worth it:
1) It's specific. You know exactly what went wrong and you are apologizing specifically for it. (i.e. "John, I am sorry that I didn't do the dishes when you had asked me to." See? Specifics tell you and other person that you know what the problem is and you are trying to mend it not just cover your bases.
2) It is sincere and not grumpy. Don't apologize if you got caught but aren't truly sorry. People are pretty smart and they know when an apology is insincere. (i.e. "Sheesh John you're so worked up. So I guess I'm sorry that the dishes didn't get done. Gosh take a chill pill." See? Would you like to hear that kind of "apology"? I didn't think so.
"For whatever it's worth, I'm sorry." Well it's not worth anything in my estimation and I don't accept your apology. So whatcha gonna do with that? :)
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