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Status of recovery? Impossible

Four Things You Can't Recover:
1) The stone after the throw
2) The word after it's said
3) The occasion after it's missed
4) The time after it's gone
Deanna Wadsworth

Sad but true.  Read the list again without the "But..." in your head.  Wishing to recover any of those things is not going to actually make them be recovered.  The opportunity is gone and in it's place may be some regret but another opportunity will present itself.  What will you do with the new opportunity?
I like word pictures.  I like them even though I'm not great at painting them.  So forgive my weak attempt and try to follow along.
The stone was thrown, the gash (wound) inflicted.  (Think in mental/emotional terms on this one will ya?)  What's the new opportunity?  Help clean the gash, apply the antibiotic ointment, and place the band-aid.  Do whatever the one you wounded will allow you to do to make up for the throw.  And remember what happened this time so the next time you are tempted to throw the stone...perhaps you won't.
The word was said and received.  It's a verbal stone that also inflicted a gash - on the heart this time.  What's the new opportunity?  See above and repeat.  Unfortunately wounds of the heart take a lot longer to heal and I have found never quite do.  They scar up nicely but still have a sting every now and then.  Be careful with your words.  (This is so a lesson for me btw.)
The moment came...and went.  And you didn't grab a hold of it even though you knew you should have.  You felt the inner nudge, your felt the curiosity of courage, you wanted to so badly you could taste it but you didn't go for it.  There will be other moments to grab hold of - i.e. new opportunities - what will you do?  Choose to allow the nudge, choose the curiosity over the fear, instead of imagining how it tastes - take a big bite and taste it for real.  (Another lesson for me.  See how this is?)
The time was there, ripe and full of anticipation.  And you let it tick away.  Now read what I just said above about moments and follow the same advice.  Time and moments are closely intertwined and really you can't have one without the other.  Each moment is counted by time.  If you have the time, for example, to speak value into a child's life then you have made and grabbed a moment.  If you don't make the time then you also have missed the moment.  See?  They are like co-joined twins.
So now, perhaps, you see that the status of recovery on any of those above is impossible.  Don't live life regretting, live life living.

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