Your clothes should be tight enough to show you're a woman but loose enough to show you're a lady. Marilyn Monroe
Too bad most women, and young ladies, don't think this quote by Monroe is true these days. Except that it is. Women of all ages - please please please respect yourselves enough to dress to be a woman and not a fill in the blank with your word of choice. And you know what I mean.
Think about a woman you've seen recently that has been wearing too little and it has been too tight. First thoughts about her? About her self-worth? About the kind of life choices she makes?
Now think about a woman you've sen recently that has been wearing age appropriate and body size appropriate. First thoughts about her? About her self-worth? About the kind of choices she makes?
True that may be judging but we tend to dress according to what we believe about ourselves. Really. And if we don't take those thoughts down a condemning road then we aren't serving as judges but rather we are observing.
You know what I think when I see the first kind of woman? I feel sad for what she must struggle with. It could be small things or big things or a mix. I feel sad for the lack of self-worth, the lack of respect she has for herself. Sometimes it's obvious there is an addiction of some kind and I feel sad for her - that she has hurts that have driven her to self-medicate through some sort of addiction. There's no judgement, just sadness that she struggles so.
You know what I think when I see the second kind of woman? I admire her for having enough respect for herself to address issues rather than hide from them, sometimes that's obvious - truly - in the way she dresses and presents herself. I admire that she is a woman who may struggle with life but still has enough people around her caring that she pulls herself together.
We really do tend to dress according to what we believe about ourselves. It seems silly but if you don't believe me, watch an episode or two of TLC's "What Not to Wear". It's amazing what is revealed to these people about themselves when they are forced to look at how they have been dressing. What may be a silly show actually has changed several lives because they've been given space - through looking at what they wear - to address their lack of respect for themselves. It's weird and seems trite but it happens all the time on that show.
I don't know "you" but I hope, I pray, you respect yourself to dress for success in life - however that looks and whatever that is. If you don't then I hope, and pray, "you" can find healing someway so that your life is all you have wanted it to be.
Too bad most women, and young ladies, don't think this quote by Monroe is true these days. Except that it is. Women of all ages - please please please respect yourselves enough to dress to be a woman and not a fill in the blank with your word of choice. And you know what I mean.
Think about a woman you've seen recently that has been wearing too little and it has been too tight. First thoughts about her? About her self-worth? About the kind of life choices she makes?
Now think about a woman you've sen recently that has been wearing age appropriate and body size appropriate. First thoughts about her? About her self-worth? About the kind of choices she makes?
True that may be judging but we tend to dress according to what we believe about ourselves. Really. And if we don't take those thoughts down a condemning road then we aren't serving as judges but rather we are observing.
You know what I think when I see the first kind of woman? I feel sad for what she must struggle with. It could be small things or big things or a mix. I feel sad for the lack of self-worth, the lack of respect she has for herself. Sometimes it's obvious there is an addiction of some kind and I feel sad for her - that she has hurts that have driven her to self-medicate through some sort of addiction. There's no judgement, just sadness that she struggles so.
You know what I think when I see the second kind of woman? I admire her for having enough respect for herself to address issues rather than hide from them, sometimes that's obvious - truly - in the way she dresses and presents herself. I admire that she is a woman who may struggle with life but still has enough people around her caring that she pulls herself together.
We really do tend to dress according to what we believe about ourselves. It seems silly but if you don't believe me, watch an episode or two of TLC's "What Not to Wear". It's amazing what is revealed to these people about themselves when they are forced to look at how they have been dressing. What may be a silly show actually has changed several lives because they've been given space - through looking at what they wear - to address their lack of respect for themselves. It's weird and seems trite but it happens all the time on that show.
I don't know "you" but I hope, I pray, you respect yourself to dress for success in life - however that looks and whatever that is. If you don't then I hope, and pray, "you" can find healing someway so that your life is all you have wanted it to be.
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