Don't feel bad if people remember you only when they need you. Feel privileged that you are like a candle that comes to their mind when there is darkness. Unknown
My husband swears that it is my lot in life to only be remembered when something needs to be done - whether that's a party, a task, etc. I've been called "the glue" that holds groups of people together - mostly because I'm the "doer". I'm not complaining, I've made my peace with it. (My husband complains about it but that's a whole different blog - ha!)
Don't get me wrong, when I say I've made my peace with it I don't mean that I have reluctantly resigned myself to my apparent role in life. It means that I have come to appreciate being known as a light. It's okay, it really is. It's okay that I'm remembered mostly for what I can do to help out a situation/circumstance/etc. I fall by the wayside otherwise and that's okay.
Do you feel the same? Does your heart resonate with what I'm saying? Have you struggled with that feeling, which looks an awful lot like reality for most of your relationships, that you are only needed or wanted when something needs to be done? If so then you and I could have a good conversation about those feelings (okay fine the reality of it - sometimes you gotta call a spade a spade). I would share with you what I've had to process and work through in order to get to a really good and peaceful place about it. I'm only a light in someones darkness when I don't rely on being needed to keep my flame burning. That's part of the conversation I would have with you as well. For a long time I fed my flame by making sure I was needed. It was flickering and weak at best and that's not the kind of light darkness needs.
And just a note, not all of my relationships are based on when I'm needed by them. Some have a good and healthy balance of give and take. Some seasons I do the giving and no taking and other seasons I do a whole bunch of taking and very little giving. It's the relationships that I know I'm only called upon and reached out to when I'm needed to be the "doer" that I have had to make peace with in my own soul. And it's okay, it really is a privilege.
Wouldn't you rather be known as light in someones life rather than darkness? Flame on my friend!
My husband swears that it is my lot in life to only be remembered when something needs to be done - whether that's a party, a task, etc. I've been called "the glue" that holds groups of people together - mostly because I'm the "doer". I'm not complaining, I've made my peace with it. (My husband complains about it but that's a whole different blog - ha!)
Don't get me wrong, when I say I've made my peace with it I don't mean that I have reluctantly resigned myself to my apparent role in life. It means that I have come to appreciate being known as a light. It's okay, it really is. It's okay that I'm remembered mostly for what I can do to help out a situation/circumstance/etc. I fall by the wayside otherwise and that's okay.
Do you feel the same? Does your heart resonate with what I'm saying? Have you struggled with that feeling, which looks an awful lot like reality for most of your relationships, that you are only needed or wanted when something needs to be done? If so then you and I could have a good conversation about those feelings (okay fine the reality of it - sometimes you gotta call a spade a spade). I would share with you what I've had to process and work through in order to get to a really good and peaceful place about it. I'm only a light in someones darkness when I don't rely on being needed to keep my flame burning. That's part of the conversation I would have with you as well. For a long time I fed my flame by making sure I was needed. It was flickering and weak at best and that's not the kind of light darkness needs.
And just a note, not all of my relationships are based on when I'm needed by them. Some have a good and healthy balance of give and take. Some seasons I do the giving and no taking and other seasons I do a whole bunch of taking and very little giving. It's the relationships that I know I'm only called upon and reached out to when I'm needed to be the "doer" that I have had to make peace with in my own soul. And it's okay, it really is a privilege.
Wouldn't you rather be known as light in someones life rather than darkness? Flame on my friend!
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