When someone says, "you've changed" it simply means you've stopped living your life their way. Unknown
Maybe. :) I think this quote is true 50% of the time. Sometimes I think when someone says "you've changed" it could mean you have changed to living life more the way they do themselves or more along the lines of the potential they see in you. For example, my parents and I. I know that if my mom says to me, "you've changed" she's actually saying that I have changed (am still changing) into the person she knows I can be. Does she mind that I maybe have chosen some different ways of living life than her? Nope. In fact I know that she is proud of me for choosing different ways to live life.
Now.
On the other side of it is the person that wants me to conform to them. A few years ago I "changed" according to someone and they weren't very happy about it because I started questioning them and some of their behaviors, etc. So because I had "changed" they used smooth words and blatant lies to damage my character with other people. It worked...for a brief season. A person like that, who wants you and I to live life their way and isn't interested in healthy growth, will always be exposed for their motives and then it is they who will need to do some changing if they want to have healthy relationships and interactions.
Change is hard for people to accept - whether it is the person changing or the people who have to kind of experience the changing with the person! Nobody much likes change but when it is in the direction of health (physical, mental, emotional, spiritual) then let's all breathe deep, applaud them (or ourselves!) for having the courage to change and celebrate that we all can be unique and not cookie cutters of one another.
Maybe. :) I think this quote is true 50% of the time. Sometimes I think when someone says "you've changed" it could mean you have changed to living life more the way they do themselves or more along the lines of the potential they see in you. For example, my parents and I. I know that if my mom says to me, "you've changed" she's actually saying that I have changed (am still changing) into the person she knows I can be. Does she mind that I maybe have chosen some different ways of living life than her? Nope. In fact I know that she is proud of me for choosing different ways to live life.
Now.
On the other side of it is the person that wants me to conform to them. A few years ago I "changed" according to someone and they weren't very happy about it because I started questioning them and some of their behaviors, etc. So because I had "changed" they used smooth words and blatant lies to damage my character with other people. It worked...for a brief season. A person like that, who wants you and I to live life their way and isn't interested in healthy growth, will always be exposed for their motives and then it is they who will need to do some changing if they want to have healthy relationships and interactions.
Change is hard for people to accept - whether it is the person changing or the people who have to kind of experience the changing with the person! Nobody much likes change but when it is in the direction of health (physical, mental, emotional, spiritual) then let's all breathe deep, applaud them (or ourselves!) for having the courage to change and celebrate that we all can be unique and not cookie cutters of one another.
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