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Adjusting our sight

Darkness forces our focus on the relevant, while the irrelevant fades away.  Seré Prince Halverson

In darkness we are forced to adjust our sight to what really matters.  The path ahead of us, obstacles in our way, the finish line (so to speak).  What isn't important to our journey melts into the darkness and is unseen because it does not matter.  In darkness all that matters is what will help us get through.  Sometimes we don't even know that something or someone is irrelevant in our lives until darkness envelops us.   I went through a dark time a couple of years back and it became very clear that there were certain people in my life that had become, unfortunately, irrelevant.  They melted into the darkness and I haven't heard from them since.  I bet that I have also been irrelevant in people's lives and I have melted into their dark times.  Sometimes the darkness is the best way to prioritize.  It helps us to adjust our perspectives and see what really does matter, letting all the "fluff" of life fall away.  For me the dark times I have experienced and walked through have helped me refine, define, strengthen, and even create what I believe and why.  The dark times have helped me understand relationships better.  The dark times have certainly helped me understand me better.  My perspectives have adjusted and once I got back into the light I still was able to keep sight of the relevant and look for ways to avoid the pitfalls of the irrelevant.  That's one of the goals, I think, of the darkness.  Keep the adjusted perspective once back in the light.  Have you been able to see the benefits of dark times in your own life?  

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