Jealousy damages

Jealousy is, I think, the worst of all faults because it makes a victim of both parties. Gene Tierney

When a person, you or someone else, acts out in jealousy it has a domino effect. The feelings of jealousy, the behavior of jealousy, doesn't stay contained within just you, it reaches out and like octopus tentacles it grabs others and wounds them. Yes, it wounds. Jealousy creates irrational behavior, hurtful words, damaging actions, justification, and isolation. It probably also creates other wounds but those are the first that came to mind. Ouch. Want to be part of that?
Recently I watched jealousy do its damaging work on some people that I love. It's painful to watch, it was or is even painful to watch the person who is jealous. The fallout from irrational behavior caused by jealousy can last days, weeks, months, even years. Both parties involved have to pursue resolution and healing for what the jealousy did and usually that is separate from one another. Unfortunately the person who is jealous usually takes longer to heal because jealousy also blinds us to ourselves because we are so busy justifying our actions and behavior that we don't see what everyone else can. SO PAINFUL.
Are you a jealous person? Do you act on it or do you try and remove it? Can you see where or how jealous behavior has wounded you or relationships in your life?

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